One of the key attributes of a leader is having a positive attitude. Easier said than done. It’s very easy to say that one must have a positive attitude, but how does one develop a positive attitude? Attitude is an emotional response given by our sub-conscious mind to an external stimulus ie Emotion creates Motion. The reverse is also true, ie the body tells the mind what state to be in. You can keep saying to yourself that ‘I am happy’, ‘I am happy’, the body will respond and say but you are not happy. Then what do you do?
Ever noticed children, – are they ever quiet and sitting in one corner brooding? Rarely. They are always up to some mischief or the other. Where do they get their energy from? They get it from a chemical called Serotonin. Serotonin is a chemical in our body and is also called a neurotransmitter. It is the happiness chemical of the body. Children have great amount of serotonin and this makes them fun, they enjoy every moment, always up to mischief, but then what happens at home or school. Often the atmosphere at home or school is that of don’t, don’t do this, don’t do that, have you studied for the test, have you done your homework, have you done your class work, how many marks have you got in maths only 75%, how will you become an Engineer, you must get 95%, first study for 2 hours then go out to play for 15 mins.
Given this environment the natural levels of serotonins drop and the child begins to get depressed. Increasingly young children as young as 12 are showing signs of depression and around this age they get introduced to cigarettes. Nicotine in any form immediately releases Serotonins.
On the other hand try shaking your body vigorously for a few seconds or play a field game like football, hockey, basketball, volleyball (not cricket – too much idle time) and observe your mind. It will feel alive and start looking at the positive side of things. The problem remains the same. What changes is the way you look at the problem and consequently your ability to tackle the problem. Earlier the problems may have overwhelmed you and you succumb to them, now you take them head on, and face the challenges. Which do you think you has a better chance of success? You guessed it – when you treat the problem us a challenge and what helped you do that – Serotonins, caused by 10 secs of stupidity.
This is the foundation for developing positive attitude. It’s a new you.
About Commander Girish Konkar (retd) : Leadership & Executive Coach, Facilitator, Team Builder, Motivational / Keynote Speaker. An ex Submarine Commander, Girish is the CEO of Beyond Horizons a leading Consultancy for Leadership and Organisational Excellence. A Leadership & Executive Coach and a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner. He is a certified Fire walking and Empowerment Coach from Sundoor School of Transpersonal Education, California, USA – World’s leading school for contemporary fire walking. An avid adventurer and nature lover, he excels in taking the teams to attain seemingly impossible heights. He regularly conducts the widely acclaimed Leadership and Motivational workshop “Winner For Life”. His credo “Success is a Choice….make it your habit” Email: firstname.lastname@example.org